Whakaaetia: Ka huri koe me to hoa hoa mahi ki te kohukohu hei utu mo te korero urunga, kare ano koe i mau i tetahi o o taakete tau a ka mutu to whakamahi i to kupu waehere i nga tau kua hipa. (Mo te rekoata, he pamekaranete.) Ka whiwhi matou, kaore matou e whakahee. I etahi wa ka ngaro te aroha. Koinei te take i paopao ai matou ki te tohunga ira tangata a Cassandra Corrado, he kaiwhakaako ira tangata motuhake i whakangungua i te Pokapū mo te Whakangao me te Hauora, a inaianei he Tohunga Whakapaipai i te papaa-a-ira i San Francisco. O.Kura , mo nga huarahi ki te korero ki to hoa mo te whakaora i to oranga aroha. Anei ana tohutohu e toru mo te whakatuwhera ki to S.O. mo te whakanui ake i to keemu sex.
Hinterhaus Productions/Getty Images1. Kawea mai te Korero ki waho o te Rouma moenga
Ko te tohu tuatahi a Corrado: Kaua e kawea mai to pouri ki roto i te whare moenga. Ko te korero mo te hiahia mo nga mea hou mo te taangata he korero whakahihiri, engari he korero whakaraerae ano, ta Corrado. Ko te tango i a ia i te wa e wetekina ana nga kakahu e kore e hoatu he wa, he waahi ranei ki te tangata ki te mohio he pehea o raatau whakaaro mo nga mea. Ae, ahakoa he mea whakamatautau ki te kawe mai i tetahi huihuinga moepuku ki roto i te waahi e takoto ana koe, he mea nui kaore. Engari, ka kii a Corrado ki te kimi i tetahi rohe kore e pai ai nga taha e rua (kaore i te whakahua, he kakahu katoa). Ahakoa e hikoi haere tahi ana i te takiwa, ki te whaiwhai haere ranei i tetahi kokonga ata o to toa kawhe tino pai, kia mohio koe kaore koe i raro i nga uhi ka whakaputa koe i to pouri ki nga ahuatanga o naianei.
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PlusOne2. Whakawhāitihia te mea e pirangi ana koe
A i runga i taua tuhipoka, kia rite ki te matapaki he aha o whainga me nga mea e tino hiahia ana koe mai i te korerorero me to oranga aroha. He wheako hou, he waahi ranei e pirangi ana koe? He taputapu hou ranei e hiahia ana koe ki te kawe mai ki roto i te whare moenga—penei i te whakamatau i te plusKotahi mirimiri paku a whakahinuhinu tahi? E taunaki ana a Corrado ki a korua ko to hoa ki te tango takitahi i nga patapatai ira tangata ki te mohio ki nga mea e hiahia ana koe ki te whakatutuki me te korerorero. Ka tukuna koe e koe ki te whakaaro mo te maha o nga mea rereke e kaingākautia ana e koe, katahi ka mohio koe mo nga mea i taurite pai ai koe me to hoa, ta Corrado te tuhi. I taua ara, ko koe me to S.O. kei te tiimata mai i te waahi mohio, kaua ki te haere ki te huihuinga me te kore e mohio he aha te hiahia o tetahi atu. (FYI: Heoi, i kii ia, ko te nuinga o nga patapatai e whakaaro ana mo te ira tangata o nga hoa noho, na reira kaore i te tino whakawhiti.)
Paul Bradbury/Getty Images3. Whakamātauria te Ui Tika me te Autaki
Ka mutu, ka whakaatu a Corrado e rua nga huarahi ki te kawe ake i te kaupapa: tika (penei hey, ka pirangi koe ki te whakamatau i te here i te wa o te taatai? Kei te pirangi au ki te ngana ki te whakamahi i etahi aukati ringaringa.') versus autaki (tuku tuhinga korero. e pa ana ki tetahi tuunga wahine ka hiahia koe ki te ngana me te patai atu he aha te whakaaro o to hoa mo taua mea). Ka taea hoki e koe te ngana ki te tohu i nga mea kakara i roto i te whakaaturanga kiriata pupuhi. Ahakoa karekau he huarahi he he, e whakaaro ana a Corrado he huarahi pai te patai maataki ki te tiimata: Ka taea e koe te whakatuwhera i te korerorero me te mohio he pehea te ahua o to hoa i mua i to whakatuwhera i a koe ki a raatau, ka tuhi ia. A, ki te kore e mahi, ko to whiringa kore-haumaru kei te whakatata atu ki te kaupapa. Te ahua nei kei te whai tatou i te flamin 'wera, makawe-whakaara, aue-taku-atua-pai sex, a kahore matou. Ki taku whakaaro me whakarereke e tatou, na me korero tatou, he waahi pai hei timata.
