Ahakoa ko TikTok te waahi haere mo nga tohutao mohio, hacks DIY a tohutohu ataahua , kua kite ano matou i te pahūtanga o nga whakawhitinga korero nui ake i runga i te turanga, mai i nga mahi whakakeke ki te hauora me te hauora hinengaro. tohutohu . Engari i etahi wa, ko aua tohutohu me nga ahuatanga, ina koa ka pa ki te hanga me te pupuri i nga hononga whaiāipo pai, kaore e tino rite, err , hauora. I kite matou i etahi o nga tikanga whanaungatanga TikTok rongonui me te patai ki te tohunga neuropsychologist me te mema o nga kaiako i te Whare Wananga o Columbia, Takuta Sanam Hafeez , mo tana tohunga ki te tango. Matohi kaipahua: He hunga whakakino hononga katoa.
1. Te Ia: Te Uiui 0
I roto i tenei ahuatanga TikTok rongonui, ka patai koe ki to hoa ki tetahi patai tinihanga: Ka pai koe ki te kihi i ahau mo te 0, ko te tangata wera rawa atu ranei o te ao mo te 0? Ae ra, ki te tango to hoa i te mounu 0, kare he ahua rangatira. Engari ko te tino tinihanga mena ka whakahoki mai to hoa, Ko koe, engari ehara ko koe no te mea ko koe te tangata wera rawa atu i te ao. (Ui noa tenei tokorua .)
Kaupapa whakakino hononga:
- Ko te pakanga whakaaro kore
- Te kore e tau
- Te whakaputa kare ki runga i to hoa
Ka tango te tohunga: Ahakoa te ahua kino o tenei ahuatanga, ka kite a Takuta Hafeez i tetahi korero nui ake e pupuhi ana i raro i te mata: Me kii ka patai a Amy ki tana hoa tane ki a Jack te patai i runga ake nei. I patai pea a Amy i tenei patai na te mea kei te kore ia e tino maia, e kore e tino mohio. Mena ka whakamatauhia e Amy a Jack me tetahi patai ka puta he tautohetohe koretake, tera pea ka mahia e ia na te mea kei te pohehe ia i tana aroha ki a ia, kei te mataku ranei ki te whakaraerae ia ia me te whakapuaki i ona ahuatanga. Ka whakaaro pea ia kei te whakaaro tonu a Jack ki etahi atu wahine, ki te whakaaro ranei he iti ake tana ataahua i era atu wahine. Ma te whakahaere i tetahi whakamatautau, kei te ngana a Amy ki te rapu atu i te haumarutanga i roto i te whanaungatanga (ma te tumanako ka hoatu e Jack te whakautu e hiahia ana ia ki te whakarongo), kaua ki te korero mo ona koretake me ona mataku ki a Jack. Ko tetahi atu take mo te whakahaere i tenei momo whakamatautau he timata i te whawhai. Ka timata pea a Amy ki te whawhai kia kite i te tawhiti e taea ai e ia te pana ia Jack kia mutu ra ano to raua hononga, mena he ra kino ia, na te mea ranei kei te whakaparahako ia i ona kare kino ki a Jack.
Me aha kē: Engari kaua e patai i enei momo patai, ko te tohutohu a Takuta Hafeez, ngana ki te matapaki i o kare-a-roto, kia pono me te patai mo nga mea e hiahiatia ana e koe i roto i te hononga. A hi‘opoa atoa i to oe mana‘o no nia ia oe iho. Mena kaore koe i te maia me te kore e aroha ki a koe ano, he uaua ki te whakapono ka pai tetahi atu.
2. Te Ia: Whakamatau Pono
I roto i tenei ahuatanga TikTok, ka tono tetahi kaihoko maaharahara ki tetahi tutei ki te whakahaere i tetahi whakamatautau pono, i reira ka maunuhia e te tutei te tangata tino nui o te kiritaki ki te whakakorikori (kaore ranei) mo nga DM. Ka tukuna e te tutei nga korero ki te kaihoko, katahi ka whakatauhia e te kaihoko mena ka hiahia ratou ki te noho tahi me tenei tangata. Ka taea e koe te kite i nga mea katoa e puta ana konei kei hea te kaihanga Chesathebrat Ko te DM ki te hoa o te wahine me te whaiaro orotika me te reta puhoi e whai ana, e arai ana te wahine ki te horoi i ona ringa ki tana hoa.
Kaupapa whakakino hononga:
- Te whakaweti i te whakawhirinaki
- Te hara
- Te whakahaere tikanga
Ka tango te tohunga: Ehara tenei i te huarahi pai ki te whakatika i te maaharahara o te tinihanga, e ai ki a Takuta Hafeez. Na te mea pono, ka pehea koe mena ka whakahaere huna to hoa ki a koe? Ka taea e koe te whakawhirinaki ano ki a raatau? Ka whakaaro koe he iti ake te pakeke? Ma tenei e arai koe ki te wehe i a raatau? Ahakoa he aha te putanga, ina tae mai koe ki tetahi DM ki a koe, ka noho koe hei tangata whakaponokore. Mena ka eke to hoa/hoa ki te whakamatautau, me noho koe i runga i te hara o te whakamatautau i a raatau, a kei te takahi koe i to whakawhirinakitanga me to oranga katoa o te whanaungatanga, ta Takuta Hafeez. Me kii atu kaore to hoa i eke ki tenei whakamatautau, kei te whakarite koe i a koe ano mo te whakawhanake i nga huarahi kino ki te whakatutuki i nga awangawanga kei a koe i roto i te whanaungatanga. Ka taea e koe te whakawhanake i te tikanga o te mataki i a raatau waea, ki te tarai ranei ki o raatau korero paapori paapori, ki te whakahaere ano i tenei momo whakamatautau (ki a raatau, ki tetahi atu tangata ranei).
Me aha kē: E ai ki a Takuta Hafeez, Ko te korero pono te huarahi pai ki te hapai i o whakapae mo te tinihanga. Tuatahi, tautuhia he aha koe i whakaaro ai kei te tinihanga ratou. Na, tuhia o whakaaro, kare-a-roto me o haki whero kia wa koe aro atu ki to hoa e marama ana koe ki o ahuatanga. Me mohio kei roto korua i tetahi taiao e pai ana, e haumaru ana. Ka mutu, whakarongo me tino whakarongo tetahi ki tetahi.
3. Te Ia: Ka mau Tinihanga
He maha ake, kei te whakamahi nga tangata i a TikTok (me etahi atu paapori paapori) ki te whakapataritari i nga mahi tinihanga mo nga mahi poauau o mua ma te rahi me te iti. I roto tenei ataata tere-patu , kaihanga Sydneykinsch Ka korero i tana kitenga i tana hoa mo nga tau e wha e tinihanga ana ki a ia i muri i tana tukunga i a ia he whakaahua whaiaro ka toro atu ia ki te whakaata o ana mohiti kia kite i tetahi atu wahine. Ko etahi atu vids hopu-tinihanga i waho ka taea te tino whakama, penei tenei , i reira tetahi roopu o nga hoa e takaro ana Never Have I Ever i runga i te kamera ohorere-whakaekea te hoa kotahi i kihia te hoa o tetahi atu kotiro.
Kaupapa whakakino hononga:
- Whakama
- Te ngaki
Ka tango te tohunga: He nui te hihiri kei muri i te hiahia ki te whakama i te tangata tinihanga, e kii ana a Takuta Hafeez—kei te whakaaro koe e tika ana kia whiua, kei te pirangi koe ki te mana ake, ki te mana whakahaere, ki te whakaatu ranei kaore koe e whakaae ki ana whanonga. Engari, ko te whakatupato a Takuta Hafeez, ko te whakama ki te iwi ka pa he kino nga hua mo te wa roa e rua nga roopu. Kare e tika te whakama na te mea ka pouri te tangata ki a ia ano, ka paopao hoki ki to raatau utu, a, i te nuinga o te waa kaore e taea te whakarereke, te whakakore ranei i etahi whanonga o te tangata e whakama ana.
Me aha kē: Mo te hunga e tohe ana ki te tinihangatia, ko te mea tuatahi, kia mahara ehara nau te he. Ko etahi atu tohutohu mo te whakaea, ko te karapoti i a koe me te hunga e aroha ana ki a koe mo te tautoko kare-a-roto, te whakangungu i a koe ano, te tono awhina me te toro atu ki tetahi kaihaumanu, tohunga hauora hinengaro ranei ki te matapaki i o kare-a-roto, te tohutohu a Takuta Hafeez. Ka nui ake te wa ki te whakaora i to whakaaro, a he pai tena.
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